In the process of educating children, there are often some very interesting, or make people laugh and cry things, become a memory in the process of children's growth. But recently, Nan Nan has a worry, which makes her have a headache. I don't know how to solve it.
Because of their work, Nannan and his wife had to let their parents in law take care of their children, and their son was taken to his hometown after one year old. Now that her son is going to kindergarten, Nannan takes his son back from his hometown, where he is used to by his grandparents. On the first day she came back, when she took her children to play in the playground, her son robbed a little girl's toy, which made the little girl cry and made the other party's parents angry. Nannan apologized again and again to end the matter.
But when I went to the playground the next day, I found that all the children saw her son running far away, and no one was playing with him at all. I also heard everyone talking about his son from a distance: "this child is impolite. If you start, you grab other people's toys, don't play with him." Nannan was not happy. The more she thought about it, the more annoyed she was. Looking at her son, she began to complain: "you robbed other people's toys yesterday. Now other children isolate you. What do you do in the future?" As soon as he heard this, his son began to cry and cry: "I want to go back to grandma's house, I don't want my mother."
Looking at her son's crying smile, Nannan feels even more sad. She feels guilty that she has no ability to bring her child to education early, which leads to these bad habits. She must pull them over for her son.
In view of the situation of Nannan's son, many children have similar incidents. As parents, we should find out why children do such things? In order to better help children correct.
Why do children compete for toys?
1. Self centered
As the child grows up, around the age of 2-5, self-awareness will gradually form and have their own views, especially the right to use and possessiveness of goods. Children often think that they are the center of the world. In the face of other children's toys, they also think that they belong to themselves, and they will grab them.
2. The attraction of toys
Although families now buy a lot of toys for their children, there are too many toys on the market. There are still many toys that their children have never seen, which are attractive to them. Even many toys are in their own home, but when children see toys, they still hope to get toys from other children. The attraction of toys is so powerful that it fascinates children.
3. Affected by family
In many families, the elderly help to take care of their children. The elderly's endless doting on their children makes their children develop a domineering character. Many old people often help their children "grab" toys when they can't get them. They inadvertently give their children a sense that if I can't grab them, my grandmother or grandfather will help me, as long as I want, I will get them.
4. It's impossible to tell right from wrong
Children are young and have a vague understanding of the world. They can't tell right from wrong, and they don't know whether their actions are wrong or not, and whether they will hurt others. When children rob other children's toys, they don't know that their behavior is wrong, so they have no psychological pressure at all.
When a child is young, he should be hard-working to get rid of the bad habit of willfulness and selfishness. The sooner the better. Pay attention to the following aspects:
1) Let the child understand: it's yours, it's yours, it's not yours. It's useless to rob.
In other words, it is to teach children "real right consciousness" and tell them what is yours and what is not yours. Parents can teach their children how to understand it in their daily life and make some judgments on the cognition of property rights.
2) Teach children to speak out their needs and learn to speak out loud
According to my observation, if children can say no out loud, toys will not be taken away in most cases.
Children are not very good at expressing themselves, so they can't accurately express their needs, but they can slowly develop their ability to express that they want to play with other children's toys, or refuse others to play with their own toys. Simple communication can play with their own toys and gain new friends.
3) Let children learn to exchange and share
Exchange is a way of mutual benefit in interpersonal relationship, and sharing is a virtue. Teach children to learn to exchange toys and share toys, can let children and other children get along with the process more harmonious, can also get more toys, but also exercise children's communication skills, help children make friends.
Children snatching toys seems to be a small matter, but it will have a very big impact, so parents must pay attention to using the correct method when educating their children, in order to get the best effect, will not affect the relationship between parents and children.